Start a conversation with a guy and even more so it can be difficult for girls to continue. This is due to the fact that the thinking of representatives of the opposite sex is arranged differently than that of the beautiful half of humanity.
Men love specifics and do not know how to collect thought from several dialogues at the same time, while women, on the contrary, perfectly understand several stories heard in the process of communicating with their interlocutor, and this helps them to understand and present a complete picture of what is happening.
Basic recommendations
So that the young man you like does not plunge into himself when communicating, you need:
- Be proactive.
- Listen.
- Asking the right questions.
- Show interest in the conversation.
- Choose 1 topic for conversation.
By adhering to these simple rules, a girl of any age will be able to win the attention of a man.
How to keep up a conversation with a guy in a correspondence?
Continuing a conversation with a guy you like is difficult not only in real communication, but also in correspondence. Psychologists say that the worst thing is to take the first step and type the first lines of a message. A man of any age will respond to a polite treatment and a question to the point.
If a girl wants to attract the attention of a stranger from the Internet, then about the usual “Hello! How are you?" it is better to immediately forget and take an unusual approach, having previously checked the profile of the chosen one on the social network on the topic of interests and hobbies.
What should I say?
In a dialogue with a man on the Internet, experts recommend being as honest as possible. You don't need to use phrases like "Guess why I texted you" or "Hi, you're so cute." The POI may not respond to this greeting.
It is better to immediately write that the interlocutor is nice and there is a desire to continue communication with him. Such a wording will make it clear to the representative of the opposite sex what an unfamiliar girl expects from him.
When the dialogue has begun, you need to attract the attention of the object to yourself as much as possible and interest him so much that there is a desire to continue communication and not respond with banal "ok", "clear" or "understandable".
Having previously studied the profile of a man, you need to ask further about:
- hobby;
- work / study;
- cultural life;
- sports;
- movie;
- music;
- animals.
It is easy to maintain a dialogue if you have common interests with the interlocutor or if you have several acquaintances as friends. When there are no mutual interesting topics, psychologists recommend talking about a man, at the same time replenishing the baggage of knowledge about the person you like.
How should you speak?
You can continue the conversation with the guy from the Internet on various topics. Experts recommend in this case not to run ahead and not to get ahead of the interlocutor's answers, carefully reading what he is reporting and giving him the opportunity to speak.
You need to speak confidently, thoughtfully weighing each word, and carefully. In addition, you need to monitor what the interlocutor answers and in what manner he does it.If a man writes openly and not in monosyllabic phrases, it means that he is interested in the girl, and he wants to continue deeper communication with her.
You need to communicate in social networks with the guy you like:
- politely;
- correctly;
- on the same wave;
- in a positive way;
- without rudeness and familiarity;
- using censored words and expressions.
It is recommended to answer the interlocutor immediately or as soon as possible. In the case when the guy is careful, it is recommended to be tactful and not impose. If the interlocutor directly wrote that he was not interested in acquaintance or that he had a girlfriend, then it would be better to end the dialogue and not write to him again.
Overview of topics for dialogue with a young man on the Internet
Several general topics that almost all people like to talk about will help to continue the conversation with the guy:
| Theme | Subtopic |
| Hobbies | fishing; football; literature; painting; cooking; Technics; gardening; animals. |
| Healthy lifestyle | sport; food; experiments; practice. |
| Cultural life | music; theatre; movie; parties; concerts; Exhibitions. |
| Work / study | field of activity; why the choice fell on this profession; achievements; experience. |
| Travels | favorite countries; plans for the future; where was; what you liked; where and how he likes to relax.
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| Gastronomic hobbies | favorite dish; does he like to cook; what kind of cuisine does he prefer. |
When the interlocutors do not have common acquaintances, you can always find interesting topics. If a man is tense, you can compliment him, which will relax him and make him more sociable and open.
How to continue the conversation if the guy is laconic?
Not all men are natural talkers. It happens that in correspondence a young man is laconic, but in real life he is simple and open in communication and does not go into his pocket for a word.
To continue the dialogue with someone who does not like to write long messages, you need to know a few rules of behavior in such a case.
If the guy wrote "understandable"
Many experts consider the word "understandable" to be a killer of dialogue. After such an answer, the interlocutor thinks for a long time what and how to write in order to continue the communication and whether it was worth it to continue at all.
“I understand” in response can be obtained in several cases. In the first, the interlocutor is busy, but cannot report it in a more voluminous form. In the second, the topic for communication became not interesting to the man and he, thus, tries to make it clear, without offending his opponent with silence. In the third, “understandable” indicates that he is tired of communicating.
Having received such a succinct but short answer, you can ask about the possibility of writing later. After that, it is recommended to wait for the man to send the next SMS first.
If the guy just said hello
In the case when the interlocutor simply replied to the greeting, you can continue the dialogue by asking the girl a question. When the word “hello” was received for greeting and a question, you need to wait, since the man may be busy, but unsubscribed in order not to lose the interlocutor.
If after the greeting there is no continuation, then the dialogue can be continued the next day. In the case when and after a while, apart from the reply “hello”, nothing follows, the communication must be stopped, since the object is not interested in the further development of the correspondence.
After the question "how are you"
Continue the conversation with the guy after the question "How are you?" can be done in any convenient way. If the answer is a short "normal", then the questioning can be continued. Further, as a rule, they are interested in what the object is doing and what it will be doing.
In the case when after the question "How are you?" there is no further answer, you have to wait. If the interlocutor did not answer the next day, it is recommended not to impose communication on this person.
After the questions "what are you doing" or "what are you doing"
Silence after asking "What are you doing?" and "What are you doing?" interpreted in different ways. In the first case, the interlocutor is busy and will answer later. In the second, he is not interested in further correspondence.
In both cases, it is recommended to wait.If the opponent is silent, then it is better not to bother him.
After the question "how was the day"
Asking "How was your day?" and without receiving a quick response to the message, you can briefly tell how the girl spent the day. A man interested in further communication will answer the story of the interlocutor without fail.
Having received "norms" or "ok" in response, experts recommend thinking about whether it is necessary to continue further attempts to interest the interlocutor. If a guy is not interested, but further conversation is unlikely to arouse his increased interest.
Examples of messages and dialogs
To attract the attention of the interlocutor, you need to adhere to the established rules that exist for communicating with a stranger. Situations are different, therefore, it is necessary to act according to the prevailing circumstances.
Maintaining a dialogue when meeting
At the stage when the man responded to the first greeting and you need to maintain a dialogue, it is important to show maximum ingenuity and attention to detail. Before you first write to the selected object, you need to study its profile in detail and understand what may be of interest to the interlocutor.
If, when asked how the opponent is doing, he told in detail what he is doing or what he plans to do, then in response you can also, but more briefly, report your plans.
After exchanging details of plans for the day, you can move on to hobbies. In order to keep the interlocutor and interest him, experts recommend showing maximum attention to the guy, not interrupting him and not anticipating the answer to the question with your guesses.
How to continue a conversation if a guy does not write himself
In the case when the young man you like does not show initiative in the conversation, you can take a leadership role. In this case, the girl may try to get his attention again with interesting questions or short stories about her own life.
You can continue the dialogue with the phrase "But I had it" or "I heard that." In this case, the man understands that the interlocutor is also an interesting person and that there is something to talk about with her. In addition, you need to remember that messages should be in a positive way, but it is better to turn off the "know-it-all" for a while so as not to frighten off the timid interlocutor.
What to write if a guy is offended
If a young man is offended by something during a conversation, it is better to immediately apologize and clarify what hooked him, so as not to repeat such a mistake in the future. The phrase "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you" will have to be in place. At the beginning of communication, it is better to check with the interlocutor on what topics the communication is unpleasant for him and not to raise them in the future.
When an apology is followed by a prolonged silence, and any attempt to continue the dialogue does not find an answer on his part, it is better to stop communicating and not impose on the interlocutor. Here it will be appropriate to write “If you decide to resume communication, write. I will be glad. "
How can you restore dialogue after an argument
There is also a situation when you need to establish communication after a long quarrel. In this case, you need to act carefully and carefully. The phrase “Hello. Aren't you angry anymore? " will be in place.
You can laugh it off about what happened by writing about what a trifle the quarrel occurred. Also, experts recommend that girls not be afraid to apologize first if they feel that they were wrong.
It is not difficult to continue a conversation with a guy on the Internet. The main thing is to be tactful, funny and inquisitive. In addition, there is no need for a man to impose or too show his intellectual superiority. The ability to listen will be an additional plus, both in virtual and real communication.
Video about girls' mistakes when communicating with a guy
Errors of girls when texting with a guy: