How beautiful, in a special way, to attract the attention of a guy - this question is asked by many young girls. This is very easy to do if you know some of the nuances and have an idea of what they generally like. Everyone has different tastes, but there are ways to attract attention that will not let you down.
How to spark interest
On the street
To attract the attention of a guy, acquaintances and meetings on the street will do just fine. Guys often try to get to know each other if they like a girl. But the female sex, in turn, should follow some recommendations in order to make it clear to unfamiliar young men that they are not against dating.
Recommendations:
- Sight Is something that may initially arouse interest. You need to stand out from the crowd: look into his eyes, holding your gaze for 2-3 seconds. It is advisable at such a moment to have the most relaxed, natural expression on your face with a slight smile. She shows that the girl is not just looking, but, most likely, is interested and shows a clear interest.
- The stronger sex is not always ready to show determination, it is also possible that the young man could not understand the sign or did not notice at all. Therefore, in this case, the girl should act directly: unobtrusively approach and ask something. For example, how to find your way to a certain nearby place (preferably, it should be on the way in the direction the guy is going) or to compliment the clothes. You need to be natural and not show excitement. If you feel friendliness or obvious interest from the guy, then you can go further together. There is a great chance that he will ask for a phone number and the conversation will continue.
On the party
It is easier to attract the attention of a guy at a party than on the street, because this is the place where everyone relaxes. The informal, relaxed atmosphere is also beneficial.
That is why, if a girl likes a guy, you should take the chance:
- It is important to look good, because at parties there are a lot of ladies in beautiful outfits and bright makeup. Dress should be appropriate. As a rule, these are dresses. Do not dress up and paint too vulgarly.
- At parties, girls are usually with friends, so it is very convenient if one of them is familiar with the guy she likes and can introduce them to each other.
- It is desirable to be bright in behavior: communicate a lot, laugh, dance, maintain dialogues and express her opinion, then the girl will definitely not remain in the shadows.
- As in the case of dating on the street, if the guy did not come up himself, you should take the initiative.
At work
At work, it is very easy to stand out among colleagues: a girl can easily draw attention to herself if she focuses on something bright in herself. It can be a detail in appearance, a character trait, or an unusual hobby.
It is important to take care of yourself: be well-groomed, smell good, take care of your hair, skin, body. It is worth finding out what the man you like is fond of. If in some way interests coincide, it will not be so difficult to get a little closer. How to attract a guy's attention at work: you can do this by joining a team and making friends with all colleagues, then the girl will be in the spotlight.
Corporate parties or informal meetings should not be missed if there is the main object of love.
At school
In school years, it is also possible to attract the attention of a guy. But the most common problem is the modesty of young girls. Therefore, it is worth developing self-confidence and not being afraid to look ridiculous.
If a girl goes to school, and the object of sighing is in another class and does not even know about her, then you should find a reason to get to know each other, but not start with recognition, since there is no guarantee that communication will continue. That's why you can, for example, go to the same section or circle where the young man goes, attend Olympiads together, etc.
Then communication will start naturally, and the guy, accordingly, will mentally highlight the girl among the crowd of other schoolgirls. He may like very sociable or, on the contrary, modest quiet girls. But anyway you need to show your attention to the guy, and not hide him. In the modern world, communication with a guy on the Internet will also be an excellent solution.
On distance
You can attract the attention of a guy you like both in real life and on the Internet.
But you need to act in stages:
- It is important to have an attractive page: high-quality beautiful photos, possibly taken with your phone, but you should not post the same type of selfies. A completed profile and posts on the wall should also be meaningful and say a lot about the page owner.
- To study his profile, to think if he has a girlfriend and if he is married. Look at groups, photos and posts to find out his interests.
- Then you can edit your page. For example, based on the previous point, it turned out that he is a fan of motorcycles, so if a girl has a photo on a motorcycle, it will not be superfluous to post it.
- Now is the time to show your attention: leave some likes or meaningful comments. It will be a very good sign if the guy, in response, is interested in the girl's page or even adds to his friends.
- Then you can try to unobtrusively write something with a personal message.
7 steps to get attention
There are step-by-step tips that in most cases, regardless of the situation and setting, help girls stand out and interest men.
Step 1. Highlight the strengths and hide the weaknesses
Firstly it is necessary to start with appearance, since half of the success depends on it. For example, a girl has an incredibly good figure. In no case should it be hidden, but on the contrary, it is worth wearing and picking up things that emphasize it. But it is important not to overdo it: skirts that are too short, tight-fitting leather clothing and a deep neckline are more likely to confuse a guy.
But if the figure is not quite perfect, then you should go in for sports and carefully select the styles of clothing. For example, with full legs, wear straight-cut trousers and focus on the waist.
Light makeup will help to deal with minor skin imperfections and highlight facial features. It is important not to cross the line and start to paint very brightly. Usually, for beauty, a little lipstick, foundation or powder, mascara and quite a bit of eyeliner along the eyelash line of the upper eyelid are enough. Hard contouring of the face and large arrows - only for the evening.
Step 2. The image of a confident, modern person
Self-confidence is not about looks that can be hidden. It comes from within. It can take some effort to create the image of a confident girl, but first of all, you need to become truly confident.
And it will contribute to this:
- life in harmony with itself;
- sports (dancing, martial arts, etc. to taste);
- active lifestyle and communication with people;
- hobby;
- appearance care;
- positive thoughts: you can never self-destruct, compare yourself with others and hope only for the bad;
- in some cases, the help of a psychologist will not hurt.
But even confident girls cannot always create the desired impression. To look confident on the outside, you need to work on your movements, delivery style and, most importantly, your voice and diction. Speech should be fluent, expressive, relatively loud. It is also important not to be silent when you have something to say. Confident people are distinguished by the fact that they almost always express their point of view.
Only practice will help here: you need to get used to talking a lot, learn to express thoughts. And the image of a modern person is complemented by an active lifestyle: having friends with whom you can spend time and have an interesting rest (but not in a club with alcohol), sports, hobbies. Also, confident people usually always have a job, moreover, they enjoy it and often go up the career ladder.
Step 3. Options for a good first impression. Clothes, hairstyle, smell
It is necessary to hide the flaws and highlight the advantages.
There are a number of guidelines for creating a good first impression:
- Clothes should not be too bright and harsh colors, its quality and purity are also important. To attract the attention of a guy for the first time, a feminine image (with a skirt, dress) or casual may be suitable. But make-up, as already mentioned, is best to select "natural".
- Hairstyle is a special detail of the image. A girl can simply braid a braid, collect a shell, a bun, or be with loose hair, but in any case, the hair should be clean and well combed. If in an unassembled state they tangle, styling is necessary. For the beauty of your hair, it is worth taking care of them: use masks, gels, dry naturally.
- Smell is a little more complicated. It is imperative to have a clean, washed body, to use deodorant, but to select perfumes with special care, since an inexpensive perfume, as a rule, smells weak or has a pungent aroma, which, on the contrary, can only scare off a guy with thoughts of keeping his distance. If the aroma is acceptable, then it is not a fact that the young man will like it. Therefore, here the ideal solution is not to use perfume at all, or to buy good eau de toilette and perfume.
Step 4. Body language
Body language can tell a lot about a person. Guys are very attracted if a girl twists a curl or strokes any small object, straightens her hair, keeps lips slightly parted and does not use closed poses: arms crossed, fingers, legs. However, you can cross your legs - this is perceived as a good gesture.
It is important to be as natural and relaxed as possible.
Step 5. Place to yourself
You can arrange to yourself with the help of dialogue. By starting to speak yourself, you can liberate the guy so that he begins to tell something about himself, trusting you. For example, a girl came on a date with a boy for the first time. You can't keep silent. Most likely, the guy himself will be liberated, get rid of shyness and start a dialogue.
But in no case should you interrupt the young man and talk a lot about himself or about those things that are obviously uninteresting to him. Better to find some common topic of conversation. It is also important to joke a little, but not allow humiliation, or at least talk about positive things.
Step 6. Ask him for a small favor
To attract attention and fall in love with a guy, the girl's external defenselessness and femininity are very helpful. This can be shown not only through appearance and behavior, but also by asking for an easily performable service.
The request can be the most common: to walk home, ask for a temporary pen, help get out of the car, or any other little thing that, nevertheless, will attract the attention of a man.
Step 7. Correct flirting: smile and look eye to eye
Flirting is a fairly easy thing, but at the same time difficult, because you need to be able to flirt. This is not a manifestation of vulgarity and vulgarity, but a much more subtle thing and a play on words, views and other components.
As soon as the girl attracted the guy's attention, she can use a subtle flirtation:
- Smile a little, as this liberates both the girl and the guy. The smile should not be "full of teeth" or artificial, it should be barely noticeable, relaxed.
- You can use non-verbal gestures: stroking hair or objects, open mouth.
- A languid voice can also help.
- The most important thing is the look. With the help of a look, you can play with a guy, make him fall in love with yourself, show interest and much more. When meeting, you need to look at the guy, looking away a few seconds after the eyes meet, as if shy. And then look again. Better to do this with a slight smile.
How to win over in conversation
After a good impression was created, the guy liked the girl externally and in behavior, attracted attention, it's time to open up internally with the help of conversations and to be liberated for both. Dialogue is the best way to initiate further communication. But it is important to know how to win over in a conversation if you have met only recently.
To do this, you need to joke from time to time, talk about yourself, but listen to the guy more, be interested in him, ask questions so that he has the opportunity to answer.
Options for how best to start a conversation
There are several ways to start a conversation so that it ends in success and the girl grabs the guy's attention.
Speak little, just to the point
To say a little means to listen to the interlocutor. This is a very good technique, since a psychological factor is at work here: people are interested in those who are interested in them. You need to ask a guy a lot about him to get to know him better. And tell a little about yourself, maintain a dialogue with your comments. The guy himself will ask the girl about her, if he is interested in answer.
Do not forget about one thing, you can talk a little and you can listen more, but if you just keep silent and assent in response, the guy will perceive it as a girl's strong insecurity or disinterest, lack of initiative.
Talk about what is interesting to the interlocutor
This technique is very similar to the previous one and is usually used together. To be remembered by a guy, you need to talk about things interesting to him. (it is desirable to find a common topic and coincidences of interests). But at first it is not worth asking about personal life and too intimate things. This will scare the guy off.
How to properly compliment
After good praise, men feel more confident. You can unobtrusively compliment the beautiful details of clothing, appearance.
But it is best to say pleasant things about a guy's personal qualities and about his successes, hobbies, hobbies. But you can't say anything about finances, otherwise the guy will think that the girl admires his security and money, and not himself.
Can be combined with a request. For example, ask to open a heavy door, and then praise him for his help, strength, kindness. Or find out which guy's favorite book, and admire his taste and erudition.
It is important that the compliment is appropriate and not overplayed. It is advisable to speak from the heart and really to the point.
Riddles of understatement
Understatement can maintain interest in oneself for a very long time.Ideally, if the girl reveals herself gradually. Each time, digging deeper, the guy will be more surprised and will want to know even more.
Everything is simple here: you do not need to give information immediately. Ideally, the guy himself asks something or accidentally finds out. Of course, it must be something unusual and good. For example, after meeting, a guy finds out that the girl is very smart and well-read, and then suddenly it turns out that she, it turns out, loves parachute jumping.
If you want to tell something about yourself, you need to bring it to the topic and then surprise. If a guy is not showing interest, then you probably shouldn't try to keep communicating.
How to get interested by correspondence on Vkontakte, Facebook
It is important to know the following nuances of how to write in order to intrigue:
- Do not often start with the banal “Hello. How are you?". Often, when communicating with girls, guys generally avoid such formalities, and the dialogue flows naturally. Nevertheless, sometimes it is really useful to ask how the guy is doing and what is new with him.
- You can talk about something interesting. For example, on recent news, ask what the guy thinks about it. Or find out something related to what he is fond of: “You have a lot of photos with your drawings. How long have you been drawing? I liked it so much. Please tell me which pencils you use. I want to try it myself. "
- In no case should you go too far in correspondence with complaints for life, loved ones, etc. The guy may be moved by the fact that sometimes the girl is sad, but if she is too negative in herself, interest may disappear.
- You can and should write first, however, this is only for those cases when mutual interest is felt: the guy is also interested in the girl and writes first. If he himself never starts the conversation first, then you should think about how to stop communication.
Show your qualities
Some character traits in girls are very attractive to guys and can cause a storm of emotions, attract attention and fall in love.
Education. Ability to behave
Men love educated girls because they seem interesting, so they are suitable for creating friendships or relationships and family. With such girls it is at least interesting. It's not about education, but about how a girl behaves, what she says.
For this you need to talk about interesting things: books, news, etc., have a broad outlook and be able to support almost any conversation. Behavior is also an important companion for smart girls. As a rule, such ladies are very restrained, to some extent modest, but they know how to be confident.
Sincerity
Sincerity cannot be faked, all people can be honest with some people, but not very honest with others. For the guy to believe that the girl is genuinely interested in him, you need to constantly show your warm attitude, support and, most importantly, be able to listen.
After all, each person has his own troubles and bitterness, as well as the need to be listened to. Also, an indicator of sincerity can be the fact that a girl appreciates a guy.
Positive mood
Positivity is expressed through attitude towards oneself and towards the world, therefore you need to show an optimistic mood for the future, never throw tantrums, believe in the good and be a positive person. A sense of humor sets many girls apart from others.
Mind and Activity
An indicator of the mind and activity of a young lady is considered a broad outlook, the presence of a hobby, a meaningful attitude to life and inner maturity.
To be such a girl, you need to travel, have an interest in the world, learn something new every day, read, keep abreast of the latest news, have the same smart and active friends, try to create or do something of your own, be active in life and initiative, sign up for circles and sections of interest.
Kindness
Kindness will help how to draw the guy's attention to yourself and demonstrate the girl's special humanity.This quality is one of the most valuable for men.
To show your kindness, you need to not hide such qualities as compassion, compassion for people and animals, perhaps a slight sentimentality. Do not hide the fact that tears flow at the sad moments in films.
But the most important indicator of kindness is good deeds, namely: charity, helping people and a desire to support. Such ladies, as a rule, attract responsible and caring men who can create a strong family. But do not confuse sincere kindness with spinelessness and inability to refuse.
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It seems to me that the main thing here is to be an interesting conversationalist, not intrusive, able to listen and hear.